Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: Foreign, The podcast for those who find themselves immersed in adversity and choose to write their story instead of having others write it for them. I'm Drew Duraney and I'm your host. Today's guest is Adele Bernard. Adele Bernard is a soul strategist and intuitive guide devoted to creating sacred spaces where men can reconnect with their truth, strength, and heart. With a gift for reading, energy and holding presence, she supports men in navigating life transitions, releasing old patterns, and embodying authentic masculinity. Through her eight week sacred men's circle, Adele helps men drop the mask, find their voice, and build lasting brotherhood. Her work blends intuition, compassion, and grounded guidance, empowering men to rise with clarity, depth, and purpose, living from a place of wholeness. Enjoy the show. Adele, so good to see you.
[00:01:05] Speaker B: Good to be seen. Thanks for having me on the show.
[00:01:08] Speaker A: It's my pleasure. So I want to thank. I always thank the person who introduced me to my guest. So once again, Anissa Hudak. He got another thank you publicly for introducing me to Adele. Thank you so much. And you were certainly right. We did need to meet.
Well, audience, you always know. I always start by talking about how when we're young, we're taught that life is linear. Life's a straight path. If we do A plus, B plus, C, D is going to happen.
And for the most part, life is linear until it's not. Ultimately, there's an external circumstance that gets in between one of those letters and short circuits that straight path in line to a more circuitous one.
And when that happens, that means adversity has now reared its ugly head and we either notice the adversity or we don't. And if we do notice it, we either challenge it, take it on head first, or we run away from it.
Now, when that happens, I always say there's like three types of women, three types of men, right? You have woman or man number one who's got a ton of blind spots. They don't see the adversity.
They believe that. That this life that they've been living is. Was handed to them and they got to live the life that they've been taught and they don't make any changes. And I don't have man or woman number one on this show. A man or woman number two, they. They see the adversity, yet they say, I'm a victim here. That adversity is a barrier. It's not an opportunity. I can't change anything in my life. It is what it is.
And they don't change anything in their life and on their deathbed, they've got a ton of regrets. I don't have man or woman number two on this show either.
I have man or woman number three on this show, man or woman number three, they see the adversity. They have a heightened self awareness. And they say, I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired. That adversity is not a barrier. That's an opportunity to do something different, take massive action and become a stronger man or woman on the other side.
That's who I have on this show.
So with that being said, Adele, if you could reach back as far as you need to for that defining moment, whether it was the tap on the shoulder, a whisper in the ear, or like I needed 2x4 upside my head, that transformed you from woman number one or two or both to the woman you are today and how that transformation impacted you personally and then professionally.
[00:03:38] Speaker B: Well, let's start with a small question.
So I come to life a little bit different than most people, right? Because I was aware as an intuitive at three years old, okay.
And in saying that, it made it that much harder to fit in.
So. So I knew I was different. I just didn't know how to explain it to people around me that I could see or hear or feel things. And they'd be like, we don't believe you. Okay? So when the. The. Whatever happened, they look at me and I'm like, I can't say anymore, right? And so as I grew up, I started learning to not say anything until I was asked.
Because like you said, I was getting the spiritual two by four upside the head saying, they didn't ask because if, say, say for instance, you had a pet, and I said, oh, well, little Joey's gonna transition in the next few days, you wouldn't believe me. And then you'd go into shock.
[00:04:54] Speaker A: Okay?
[00:04:55] Speaker B: Yet if you just let little Joey transition, you'd go into the heart feeling the shock wouldn't come into play.
[00:05:05] Speaker A: Okay?
[00:05:06] Speaker B: And so I learned, don't shock the people before the event happens unless they asked. Because if. If they're asking, they are aware that they're feeling something. They just can't pinpoint it.
[00:05:20] Speaker A: Okay?
[00:05:22] Speaker B: Right.
[00:05:22] Speaker A: Yeah, absolutely.
[00:05:25] Speaker B: The.
[00:05:25] Speaker A: The. The shock part, and you're right. And so I. And I can't even imagine being three years old and being intuitive.
Do you recall, I mean, at that age, the first instance where you realized you had a gift,
[00:05:49] Speaker B: A lot of it too, was I didn't speak until I was four, okay? So I was Speaking to the other side all along, thinking I was speaking to the humans in front of me. I didn't know I wasn't talking to the humans in front of me. Okay, Right. And I. There's. There's pictures of me in California with my aunt, and she was very patient, and she was very good with the English language and a teacher in her own right.
And I was on the picnic table, and she was trying to get me to speak sentences and to get put words together.
And I was like, well, why I'm talking all the time. And then one day I just start talking.
[00:06:36] Speaker A: Interesting.
[00:06:38] Speaker B: Right? And so then it was like talking
[00:06:40] Speaker A: about a shock to the other people.
[00:06:42] Speaker B: Well, yeah. And so. Well, you know. Well, why weren't you talking before? Well, then they went down the hole. Well, you know, she must have delayed responses and she. You know all this stuff. Right. And yes, I did find out I was dyslexic, but that didn't change the fact that I was talking to the other side.
So.
[00:07:07] Speaker A: Do you recall when you first told somebody, a human, like, living, that you were talking to the other side, who believed you?
[00:07:18] Speaker B: Oh, that was way later in life.
[00:07:20] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:07:25] Speaker B: When I really, really confronted it, it was with a friend of mine who actually happened to be a psychologist, who was very intuitive, a mystic herself.
And. And she says, of course she couldn't say anything. And I said, why not?
Because they weren't there to understand that. Right, right. So I always say to people that we. We choose our family for the lessons we want to learn.
[00:07:54] Speaker A: Right.
[00:07:54] Speaker B: Whatever.
I know there's many reasons I've chosen my family, but ultimately, coming in as the youngest daughter, I didn't come in to be the baby.
[00:08:08] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:08:09] Speaker B: I am the leader. I am the light worker, hence my lighthouse, to show them there's a different way.
[00:08:16] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:08:17] Speaker B: Has it been an easy road? Absolutely not.
[00:08:20] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:08:21] Speaker B: Right. But I'm also saying let's not do this life again.
Whether you believe in past lives or not, let's not do this life again. And let's.
Let's evolve and awaken enough that we can move through all this karmic stuff that we keep coming in to rehash all the time.
[00:08:42] Speaker A: Right.
[00:08:42] Speaker B: And move forward.
And I know I'm doing that every day in a small way.
[00:08:51] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:08:51] Speaker B: And whether they understand it quite yet, I don't know. But that's not up to me. That's their journey.
[00:08:59] Speaker A: Right. So how old were you when you told that psychologist that? Do you recall just trying to get
[00:09:06] Speaker B: 20, 22 years ago.
[00:09:09] Speaker A: So I'm Trying to get a grasp here. You for 19 or so years, let's say you kept all of this to yourself.
[00:09:17] Speaker B: Well, I would say things like pretending like, oh, what's the horoscope say today? And we'd be sitting around like, this is at work. We'd be sitting around at our waitressing job. And I go, hey, anyone, like, read the horoscope? And they go, you always read it. I go, because it's stupid and it's fun.
And I'd make a joke of it.
[00:09:36] Speaker A: Oh, I got you. Okay.
[00:09:37] Speaker B: And then. And then it would be like, well, what the heck does that mean? And I'd say, well, this is how I interpret it.
And they go, oh, that makes more sense.
I said, don't take it literal. Take the bigger thing. Like, oh, it's going to be sunny today, but watch out for showers.
Well, it's going to be a good day, but you might have an obstacle that might go, do I need to deal with that obstacle or not? So don't take it literally. And then I got into doing astrology charts and human design and jinkies and all of that stuff. And I'm like, well, this is what I've been doing all my life. You just put a name to it, right?
And like, for instance, mercury retrograde.
People go, why are everyone talking about Mercury retrograde? Well, in my life, Mercury retrograde was a significant thing because it's a planet that rules my communication. Well, it rules communication for everyone. But three times a year with no help from me, my life would literally fall apart, communication wise. And I'm like, what is going on? Then I found another friend who knew more astrology than I did, and she goes, well, that's the ruling peloton free. Of course it's going to.
So now I use it to my benefit.
[00:10:53] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:10:54] Speaker B: Oh, come on, Mercury, you're gonna go retrograde? I got it all covered. Bring me what I want.
[00:11:00] Speaker A: Okay, so what is it?
[00:11:01] Speaker B: Instead of my life falling apart?
[00:11:04] Speaker A: Yeah, so you said it happens three times a year. When, When. When does it. When does it occur? Or is it same every year?
[00:11:10] Speaker B: It depends on where it is in the.
Like, we just had one November, December. Okay, like the last one, it was a doozy because not only was Mercury retrograde, we had five other planets metrograde.
[00:11:24] Speaker A: So tell the audience for people who don't understand what that means, the retrograde piece. What. What does that mean in reality? Like. Like quantum physics. And what does it mean? Like, what happens to us when the planets are in retrograde?
[00:11:41] Speaker B: So the layman terms of any planet that goes into retrograde, every planet has a corresponding emotion or action to it.
[00:11:53] Speaker A: Okay?
[00:11:54] Speaker B: Right. So Mercury is all about communication.
[00:11:57] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:11:58] Speaker B: So if you're buying a house and you have to sign the legal documents during that three week period, you make sure you go through it with a fine tooth comb to make sure every T's crossed, every eyes dotted, there's nothing that's going to fall apart.
[00:12:14] Speaker A: Okay?
[00:12:15] Speaker B: Right.
[00:12:17] Speaker A: Or.
[00:12:22] Speaker B: What's another one? Like Saturn is, is the love. Right.
[00:12:27] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:12:27] Speaker B: So if it's in retrograde and you meet the love of your life, pull back.
Okay, Pull back. Right. Because yeah, in retrograde, they can do no wrong. They're the most beautiful person.
Coming out of retrograde, you're like, well, there's a red flag and there's a red flag, but are those red flags that are stoppers?
Maybe, maybe not. Okay, right. And there's so like you got to go, I don't know them off the top of my head. But you go through every different aspect of your chart.
[00:13:08] Speaker A: Right.
[00:13:09] Speaker B: And ChatGPT can really help with this. Like if you know nothing of astrology and you can see why, oh, Mars was here in this house. Well, what does that mean? Well, that might, you know, Mars in the first house is going to affect your financial.
But Mars in a different house might be. Oh, well, you know, like maybe you want to do more education but you're hesitant, like, can I do it? So it's all, you know, because Mars is the fire, Mars is the do I really want it? Okay, right. Well, okay, so it's just different ways of looking at. And then if you go into the human design, which is the astrology built in, you find out that you have a, a core theme.
Right?
[00:14:00] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:14:00] Speaker B: Like, you know, I, for my theme, I'm a hermit most 90% of the time.
[00:14:06] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:14:07] Speaker B: I only can be in community 10%.
And right now, because of the last six years, whatever, I'm trying to come, I'm attempting to come back into community and my community saying, wow, you're uncomfortable. And I'm like, yeah.
[00:14:25] Speaker A: Ah, okay, okay, right.
[00:14:27] Speaker B: Because usually I'm in the center of the party.
[00:14:30] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:14:30] Speaker B: And now I'm sliding in the door and sitting on the wall just watching.
If people come up to me, I'll talk to them. I'm not going to the center because I've been a hermit for too long.
[00:14:41] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:14:42] Speaker B: Right. And so there's all these little tricks of the trade that you can use. But ultimately, because I'm an intuitive from very, very young Yeah. I will feel someone's energy.
I'll feel like they're at the party. They don't want to be there. But is it because they're a hermit or they're actually not feeling well?
[00:15:04] Speaker A: That could be. Yeah.
[00:15:05] Speaker B: Right.
[00:15:05] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:15:06] Speaker B: And so it's like you go over and you go, you okay? And they'll be like, say, you know, I got come up to you. And I go, drew, you doing okay?
[00:15:14] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:15:15] Speaker B: I go, you don't want to be here, or you're just not feeling well, right?
[00:15:19] Speaker A: Yeah. Yeah.
[00:15:20] Speaker B: And then you'll say, oh, I'm not feeling well. I said, well, make your exit as soon as possible.
Go look after you.
[00:15:27] Speaker A: I got it. I got it. That. So how does somebody like myself, who's not. It doesn't have the intuitive thing you have. How do I know when do we know when things go into retrograde or decide. Wait to somebody. Usually somebody tells me. I'll. I'll say, like, things seem pretty weird, and they say it's a full moon or Mercury is in retrograde. Like, how would I know that if I'm feeling off?
I can. Do I have to look it up?
[00:15:54] Speaker B: Well, you can look it up, but you also can, like, stop and take some deep breaths and start asking your body, okay, what's going on? There's that great book of the Body keeps the score done by a psychologist, and he goes into the depths of, like, the whole PTSD and all of that. But I'm just saying we don't. We don't have to have huge traumas. We have traumas every day. And so you just kind of go, like, say you just came home from the grocery store, and you come home and you're like, what is going on? Because this happens a lot.
[00:16:29] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:16:31] Speaker B: And you're just like, what's going on is this my energy?
And your body will go, no, thanks for sharing. Let it go. And it will go, right?
[00:16:42] Speaker A: Yeah.
It is interesting that your body can tell you a lot if you listen to it, but more often than not, we're not listening to our own. To our own bodies. I mean, just the stat that 85 of physical ailments are due to unaddressed internal stress. If we're not listening to our body and we just let. Just ignore it, then we end up getting. A lot of people end up getting sick, physically sick. And.
[00:17:03] Speaker B: Well, yeah. And I heard a statistic the other day that was kind of scary, but not. Not shocking was. It was from the Heart Institute, and they were saying it's up to now, 60% of people. Not. It used to be males. Now it's people, okay. By the time they know that they have heart disease, they're dead.
Their family is finding out that they had heart disease.
It's up to 60%.
[00:17:39] Speaker A: You do. And you do hear that often that. That the family is hearing when it's too late for that individual, too, because
[00:17:45] Speaker B: they had no idea. They thought they were just having shortness of breath while they shoveled or, you know, oh, I couldn't run my five miles today. I only ran four.
[00:17:54] Speaker A: Yep, yep. And. And more. More often than not, they're just. It's. They're not picking up on it until.
Until it's too late. Yeah, no, that's so true.
[00:18:02] Speaker B: But also, like, when you think of the psychosomatic work, any dis. Ease in the body is an emotion trapped.
[00:18:16] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:18:17] Speaker B: Right.
[00:18:18] Speaker A: Yep.
[00:18:18] Speaker B: And Sylvester Stallone said something the other day that I caught on a real. That he was talking about parents being aware of their bundle of clay.
[00:18:28] Speaker A: Okay, Good.
[00:18:30] Speaker B: Better, and different. We're leaving dense, so do better.
[00:18:35] Speaker A: Interesting.
[00:18:37] Speaker B: Because he had asked his mom to come to the Oscars with him, and she said no because she didn't believe he was doing what he was doing.
He went alone and won for the Oscar for Rocky, and he said, I'm a tough man. Yeah, it still hurts.
[00:18:55] Speaker A: Wow.
There's a dent in the clay right there.
[00:19:00] Speaker B: So if Rocky can still be affected from his parents, who are long gone.
[00:19:05] Speaker A: Oh, yeah.
[00:19:07] Speaker B: He's done better with his kids.
[00:19:09] Speaker A: Yep. Absolutely. Oh, my goodness. Thank you for sharing that.
[00:19:13] Speaker B: Well, and it's just like, we have to think of our. Ourselves as our own clay. The outside world can do whatever, but if we're centered and we're. We're living in our authentic self, you know, like, whether you believe in God or not, it doesn't matter. Creator.
[00:19:28] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:19:29] Speaker B: If you're living in that center itself, a tsunami could be going on, and you're like, I'm centered. I'm good. I'm looked after.
[00:19:39] Speaker A: Right, Right.
[00:19:41] Speaker B: And it pushes those dents back out to be shiny.
[00:19:44] Speaker A: Absolutely. Now, I. Behind you on your backdrop there, you have three words that I think kind of align with what you're talking about. Tranquility, mood, and emotion.
When those are all aligned, are you centered?
[00:19:59] Speaker B: Absolutely.
[00:20:00] Speaker A: Absolutely.
So give us a little God. Yeah, Give us a little about those three words in your. Your perspective of the three worlds words, Tranquility, mood, and emotion. What is tranquility?
[00:20:16] Speaker B: Is that inner peace, calm that.
I know. I just feel it's warmth Like, I'm just. I'm just so peaceful and calm that a bomb could go off. And I go, that's nice.
It's not mine.
[00:20:35] Speaker A: Not yours. Not yours. So. So if. If you're in a tranquil state, does that then determine what mood you're going to be in?
[00:20:45] Speaker B: I think it feeds into the mood.
[00:20:47] Speaker A: Feeds into the mood.
[00:20:48] Speaker B: Because you can't. You can't be in an angry state and be tranquil.
[00:20:52] Speaker A: Gotcha. Okay.
[00:20:53] Speaker B: You can't be in. In. In a. Over the top joyous and be tranquil.
[00:20:59] Speaker A: Got it. Got it. And then.
And then when you have that mood, will it.
[00:21:07] Speaker B: Yeah. Because you know your emotions are in check.
[00:21:10] Speaker A: Right.
[00:21:10] Speaker B: Because if they're not, you can't get the mood. Correct. And you can't get the tranquility.
[00:21:15] Speaker A: Right. Absolutely.
[00:21:16] Speaker B: And that's where the lighthouse comes in. It's like I'm solid as the white lighthouse.
[00:21:20] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:21:22] Speaker B: Right. People find me because they're done hitting up against the rocks and they're going, what's going on?
[00:21:29] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:21:30] Speaker B: I said, oh, you want to go around me? Okay.
[00:21:32] Speaker A: Yeah. The lighthouse is that guiding light that.
[00:21:35] Speaker B: Yeah. Let's pull you back into center. Like, you've been way out in left field or right field, and you're like, but I'm doing everything right. And that's what you talked about, the opening of this conversation.
[00:21:45] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:21:45] Speaker B: You do a B to C, and then you'll get D. Well, that's the biggest lie we've ever been told.
[00:21:51] Speaker A: Absolutely. Absolutely.
[00:21:54] Speaker B: Yes. There is an A. And there is a B. And is receiving. There's a D.
Doesn't mean they go together.
[00:22:00] Speaker A: No.
[00:22:00] Speaker B: Doesn't mean they go in straight line.
[00:22:02] Speaker A: Nope. Nope.
[00:22:03] Speaker B: Right. And so it's unique. It's being aware of where you are. Am I working on age today or am I working on D? Oh, maybe I'm doing A and D. Well, that's kind of the balance.
Right. Well, how do we pull in B to get it more balanced? Oh, here comes C. Right. So.
[00:22:25] Speaker A: Absolutely.
[00:22:25] Speaker B: And I like how it's four of them, because four is stability.
[00:22:30] Speaker A: Right.
[00:22:31] Speaker B: Four is a solid chair.
[00:22:34] Speaker A: Right.
[00:22:35] Speaker B: Four is a box.
[00:22:36] Speaker A: That's true. Yep.
That's true. That's true. So I know you've told me you coach more men than women.
[00:22:44] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:22:44] Speaker A: So in your coaching, what type of men, are they ready to make a change when they come to you, or are they somewhat resistant, but they know something's there?
Tell me how that works.
[00:22:58] Speaker B: It's all of the above.
[00:22:59] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:23:01] Speaker B: So I have started my men's Coffee chats where it's 30 minutes.
[00:23:06] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:23:07] Speaker B: They come in with their questions or queries, whatever, and, you know, we give a little discussion. Because the reason it's 30 minutes is I asked for an hour and they said no. And I'm like, well, that's straightforward.
[00:23:22] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:23:23] Speaker B: Like, right. They won't give up an hour of their time.
So I give 30 minutes. If you only can come for 15, that's fine.
But it's also my way of getting guidance for where they are today, because where they were at the beginning of 25 is not where they're going into 26.
[00:23:44] Speaker A: Right, right, right, right.
[00:23:46] Speaker B: Also, it's a way of me sharing a little bit.
20, 26 and beyond is going to be different than we've ever seen.
Right.
So how are you changing your inner state to match where you want to be going forward?
[00:24:07] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:24:07] Speaker B: Right. And I work a lot with the dents in your clay.
What untruths have you been told? That is not true.
[00:24:19] Speaker A: Right.
[00:24:19] Speaker B: And so I say to men, you have a great life.
I'm not here to deny you have a great life. But what if we could make it fantastic?
[00:24:28] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:24:30] Speaker B: With a few tweaks.
It's not like you're going to be in therapy forever. I'm not. And I'm not dissing therapy. If you need therapy, please find a good therapist.
I'm here to guide your soul to reconnect with the inner you that you forgot who you were.
[00:24:51] Speaker A: Right, Right.
[00:24:52] Speaker B: So when you're that little boy and you wanted to be Superman or Batman or even Wonder Woman. I don't care. Yeah, but you forgot who you wanted to be, and I want you to find that person.
[00:25:02] Speaker A: Absolutely. So do you find the men who you work with to be to be their authentic self, or they're striving to be their authentic self or they don't know what their authentic self is? Is it all of the above?
[00:25:16] Speaker B: It's all of the above. Yeah. And the hardest thing that I have learned through this journey with the men is they don't feel safe to go home and talk about it.
[00:25:31] Speaker A: Iron. Iron. And it's ironic because that's supposed to be their safe space is home. And whoever they're with. And.
[00:25:37] Speaker B: And so I said on the podcast earlier, women, you can't get mad at your man for going in the cave because you put them there.
And they go like. She was like, pardon. I go, we have put them there.
[00:25:57] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:25:57] Speaker B: We're too busy with the kids. We're too busy getting everything ready. We're Too busy. And then they're standing there going, where's my role?
I thought I was the leader of this family. We've taken that leadership away.
And I'm not saying one is better than the other. I'm saying come together.
[00:26:16] Speaker A: Right.
[00:26:17] Speaker B: Book that meeting together and handle the house stuff. Handle the kids stuff in that 20 minute meeting.
But have the meeting.
[00:26:27] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:26:28] Speaker B: Start building in date night again. And you do not talk to about the kids. You do not talk about work. You talk about each other.
[00:26:35] Speaker A: Each other. Right.
Can there be co leaders in a household?
[00:26:41] Speaker B: Absolutely. Moms are better at some things than dads, and dads are better than some things and moms.
[00:26:46] Speaker A: Right.
[00:26:47] Speaker B: But they, but the moms and dads have to talk to say who's taking what role.
[00:26:52] Speaker A: Absolutely. And, and you're right, a lot of men do feel that they don't know their place. They don't know what their role is. It's been taken away from them. And it's not usually a malicious taking away. It's just has evol. Over time. I mean the, the narrative in society is that, you know, that they. A lot of the narrative is talk this toxic masculinity thing.
Do you believe in toxic masculinity, toxic femininity?
Yeah.
You do?
[00:27:22] Speaker B: It's more energetic. So no. So I, I had most of my career, my job career in oil and gas and it's very male dominant.
[00:27:36] Speaker A: Right.
[00:27:38] Speaker B: And the women who are in there are in their masculine.
[00:27:43] Speaker A: Gotcha.
[00:27:43] Speaker B: Okay, Right.
[00:27:44] Speaker A: Yep.
[00:27:45] Speaker B: And I'm saying that the next 18 to 20 years, depending on what, what you believe for the timeline of it, we are all rising in our feminine.
[00:27:58] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:27:59] Speaker B: And anyone who doesn't understand that, you just have to go through history. Every time there's a world catastrophe, a pandemic, a war or whatever, the feminine rises to bring back community structure. Right. And so we've just had a pandemic. So the feminine is rising.
[00:28:22] Speaker A: And when you say the feminine is rising, could that be more empathy, more compassion, whatever.
[00:28:27] Speaker B: The more community.
[00:28:28] Speaker A: More community. The more stereotypical things that lean towards the feminine space in women.
[00:28:34] Speaker B: It's not feminine, it's just.
[00:28:37] Speaker A: Why is it characterized as that, though? It seems to be characterized like that
[00:28:42] Speaker B: because humans like labels.
[00:28:46] Speaker A: They do. You're right. Yeah.
[00:28:47] Speaker B: Right. And I say, and this is what was really interesting, being in the service industry, like in, in restaurants and stuff.
[00:28:58] Speaker A: Right.
[00:29:00] Speaker B: Men typically made 20 to 30% more in tips than women.
[00:29:04] Speaker A: Right.
[00:29:05] Speaker B: In the same restaurant.
[00:29:06] Speaker A: Same restaurant. And you're going, regardless of the gender of the customer.
Didn't matter. They just made more interesting.
[00:29:13] Speaker B: Were they better? No. Were they funnier? No. Were they better looking? No.
They just. It's just across the board, 20 to 30%. And so.
So even in an industry that they're supposed to be everyone's equal. Like everyone comes in as a waitress, gets minimum wage.
Right. Sometimes less, depending on the restaurant, which I don't agree with, but that's a topic.
The tips are what makes their wage go up or down.
[00:29:44] Speaker A: Right.
[00:29:44] Speaker B: It's not like an engineer is an engineer is an engineer. Because we all know that they're all paid different.
[00:29:50] Speaker A: Right?
[00:29:51] Speaker B: Right. I know men and women who've started out together.
Sometimes the men made more, sometimes the women really made more. And I'm like, you're a great negotiator.
Right. But they all have the same service. They all had the same years of experience.
Right, Right. And so I. I think it was interesting how you bring it down to the basic service industry.
Men make more.
[00:30:20] Speaker A: Yeah.
Yep. So you see, you see the feminine piece rising now to get us back into equilibrium.
How long does that usually take? Is it that, that 18 to 20 year kind of thing?
[00:30:35] Speaker B: The time cycle astrologically is 18 to 20 years.
[00:30:39] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:30:40] Speaker B: But the difference is this time, not only are we coming out of pandemic, which is a world changing event, we're also as of this like 20, 25 to 26 on January 1st, ending a 12 year cycle.
I don't remember what it was, but 12 year cycle, we're also like brand new babies in the Age of Aquarius. We've never been here before.
[00:31:08] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:31:08] Speaker B: It's not a song just from the 70s. It's actually the age of Aquarius was an astrological transformation. That said, we are moving from the Pacific Age to the Aquarian Age.
[00:31:22] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:31:23] Speaker B: So when you think about the Aquarian Age, it's all about the love, the community, the compassion, right?
[00:31:29] Speaker A: Yep.
[00:31:30] Speaker B: In the feminine rising. And we're in a new world that we've never seen.
So we're in next 26,000 years into the Aquarian Age.
[00:31:44] Speaker A: Right.
[00:31:45] Speaker B: We need to be gentle with ourselves because you wouldn't expect a brand new baby out of the womb to know everything.
[00:31:54] Speaker A: No, no.
[00:31:55] Speaker B: They don't even know if they have hands and feet yet.
[00:31:57] Speaker A: No, not yet.
[00:31:58] Speaker B: That's where we're at. We don't even know if we have hands and feet yet.
[00:32:02] Speaker A: So where did, where did the 12 year cycle come? What is that?
[00:32:06] Speaker B: I don't remember what.
I apologize. I don't remember what the.
The 12 is. 12000 years cycle that's ending.
[00:32:15] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:32:16] Speaker B: It's something to do with plants. But I can't remember.
[00:32:19] Speaker A: All right. No. It's just something. So it sounds like a lot of stuff is aligned for us for a big big shift now.
I mean just. I always believe in general if we live in kindness and just kind to each other, life's just going to be better.
Now there's a lot of lack of kindness right now where people are attacking each other. Is that going to shift for the positive?
Do you see that shifting to more lean towards more kindness and compassion.
[00:32:51] Speaker B: I look at it this way.
We all remember the bully on the playground.
[00:32:57] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:32:58] Speaker B: Right. It's no different now that we're adults.
The bully on the playground was being bullied at home.
[00:33:05] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:33:06] Speaker B: The person who's grumpy out at the grocery store or whatever to show compassion. We don't know what their at home, what their home life is. They don't. We don't know if they've just spent their last $40 that they have on groceries.
[00:33:23] Speaker A: Right.
[00:33:23] Speaker B: To get them through.
[00:33:24] Speaker A: Right.
[00:33:25] Speaker B: We don't know.
Right. And. And just the other day at the grocery store I asked the girl, the clerk a question and I got a snark response back and I was like great. And I know. I, I, I chose to choose to be grumbled back in a way that I'm like, you don't do that. I go, I don't do that.
By the end of it we were talking, we're laughing and she said thank you for being the best customer. Oh right.
[00:33:59] Speaker A: Right.
[00:34:01] Speaker B: And I thought this could have gone so the other way it could have been.
[00:34:05] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:34:05] Speaker B: I took her grumble and I took it on and I'm like, I don't take it on. I'm going to be me.
[00:34:12] Speaker A: Good for you. You know.
[00:34:13] Speaker B: Right?
[00:34:14] Speaker A: Yeah. Absolutely. You know, on that note, the the audience has certainly captured your essence, the essence of Adele Bernard. They're going to want to get in touch with you. That was a perfect segue to me saying this.
Folks. In the. If you're watching in the background there's two QR codes. One to book a one to one with Adele and one to go to her LinkedIn. If you're on audio right now, you can get to her website by using a bitly backslash transition with a T and clarity with a C capital C. So it's capital T for transition, capital C for clarity and. Or you can go to Adele Bernard TC on LinkedIn and I'll put the the website link and the Link and the LinkedIn link in the show notes.
Adele, before we go, I got two questions I really want to ask you.
The first one is picture where you are in your happy, happy place and you're sitting down with 7 to 10 year old Adele and you want to give her advice about life. What are you going to tell her?
[00:35:20] Speaker B: Good, bad, or indifferent, you have created everything that you've gotten.
[00:35:28] Speaker A: Powerful. Very powerful.
[00:35:29] Speaker B: Right?
[00:35:31] Speaker A: Very.
[00:35:31] Speaker B: So if you don't like what's happening, it's up to you to change it.
[00:35:36] Speaker A: There we go.
[00:35:37] Speaker B: You can ask for guides, you can ask for help, but it's up to you.
[00:35:41] Speaker A: Love it. All right, so switch gears now. You're sitting down with young entrepreneur, young businesswoman Adele, and you want to give her advice about business. What are you going to tell her?
[00:35:53] Speaker B: All the answers are within.
Love that. Right. Because on my journey, I've listened to all the outside voices and got muddled up in it and then eventually come back to my inner voice.
And even so, when I was. When I was being shown to work with men, I was like, I'm not working with men. Are you crazy? Why am I working with men?
And I literally, in a meditation, got shown all my friends who were male, all my work friends were male, all my friends today, 90 male, and all my absolute ride or die confidants. Mail.
[00:36:47] Speaker A: Interesting.
[00:36:47] Speaker B: Why am I not working with males?
And then after I had that movie, I had a person call me and was saying all this stuff, and I go, thank you for the clarification. And she said, why? And I go, this conversation is why I work with mail. Have a nice life.
You guys. You guys are straight shooters. You know what you want, you know when you want it. And. And I want the listeners to also understand if you call me and you say you so want to get on my program, and I'm like, okay, not right now.
Don't be offended. Please don't be offended. You're not ready.
I am not here to take your money. There's lots of coaches that will do that. That is not me. I want you to get the best value and shift out of your money with the easiest transition.
[00:37:44] Speaker A: Right?
[00:37:45] Speaker B: So if you're not quite ready, don't be. If take offense, it might be a month later. Yeah, I'll give. Do. Do a little homework. Once you get that little homework, give me a call back. Right? Because I want the best for you. It's not about me getting paid.
[00:38:02] Speaker A: Very honorable. Absolutely. Absolutely. Well, Adele, I want to thank you for coming on. I want to thank you for being the person you are.
You could have easily hid as a wallflower and not spoken, but tried to bring you into the center. But thank you for explaining everything to us. Thank you for being who you are and sharing your story.
You're a good person. I appreciate you.
[00:38:26] Speaker B: Thank you for having me on the show. Drew. It's a pleasure.
[00:38:29] Speaker A: It's a pleasure. Everybody out there, please take care of yourselves.
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