Episode 81

April 28, 2024

00:35:56

Episode 81 - Rick Gabrielly - From Adversity to Entrepreneurship: Rick's Journey of Personal Growth and Connection

Hosted by

Drew Deraney
Episode 81 - Rick Gabrielly - From Adversity to Entrepreneurship: Rick's Journey of Personal Growth and Connection
From Caving In To Crushing It
Episode 81 - Rick Gabrielly - From Adversity to Entrepreneurship: Rick's Journey of Personal Growth and Connection

Apr 28 2024 | 00:35:56

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Show Notes

This episode:  From Adversity to Entrepreneurship: Rick's Journey of Personal Growth and Connection. 

Here’s what you’ll learn about:

Overcoming adversity with Rick Gabrielly, who shares his personal growth journey. (0:08)

  • Rick shares a defining moment from his life where he was hit upside the head with a 2x4, leading to a moment of growth and change.

Father's death, addiction, and recovery, with a focus on the power of connection. (2:00)

  • Rick describes his father's death and his subsequent struggles with depression and self-destructive behavior.
  • Rick's friend, and former school teacher, has a near-death experience while body surfing, leaving him paralyzed from the neck down.
  • Rick held hands with the man after a near-death experience and never talked about it.
  • Rick and his wife met a year after his recovery through a chance encounter at a bar.

Career journey from welding to sales to entrepreneurship. (6:13)

  • Rick met Carol in 1987 and they're still dating today.
  • Rick’s father wanted him to be a lawyer, and he begged his mother to ignore his father's wishes.
  • Rick was running a body shop when he met Carol, who was a banker.
  • He describes his entrepreneurial journey, from sales to recruiting, and eventually starting his own company.
  • Rick left his job in 1997 to pursue his own entrepreneurial venture, after feeling constrained by the corporate culture.

Entrepreneurship, wellness, and personal growth. (11:20)

  • Rick's journey from a dentistry spa to wellness coaching was driven by his desire for creativity and recognition.
  • Despite facing challenges and underappreciation, Rick persevered and built a successful consulting firm, Rainmaker Consulting.
  • Rick shares his passion for wellness and recreation, and how he’s used his inner compass to guide his decisions.
  • Rick became a distributor and management level leader with Bemer and won an award for his work.

Personal growth, entrepreneurship, and mentorship. (16:22)

  • At a virtual conference in The Netherlands, speaker Frank van den Horst shares stories about his father's magic career, and Rick connected with Frank afterwards and chatted over shared interests.
  • Rick, Frank and Peter created online community for self-care and personal growth, integrating volunteer work with Master Networks.
  • Rick offers advice to young entrepreneurs: save 1% of earnings, give 1% to charity.

 

To learn more about Rick’s mission, go to his LinkedIn profile at https://www.linkedin.com/in/rickgabrielly/ 

Or his website at http://rickgabrielly.com/ 

 

Rick’s Bio: Rick Gabrielly

Rick Gabrielly is a passionate husband, father, author, podcaster, community builder and American Wellness Entrepreneur. His limitless enthusiasm, love of technology, energy medicine, and exploration of biohacking inspires and motivates others. 

By choosing LOVE over fear, Rick creates an environment of high-vibration, light-filled possibilities to help others uncover, cultivate and celebrate their own unique gifts, as well as the gifts in those around them. If you need a little spark, Rick always shows up, ready to light your torch.

Rick is the COO & Visionary Creator of Scarsdale Dental Spa & Wellness for the past 28 years. Along with Carol, his wife of 35 years, they are Independent Distributors & Group Leaders for BEMER Group USA since 2016, and co-authors of The Currency of Connection, first published in 2020. Rick is a happy Area Director and Regional Growth & Development Advisor with Master Networks’ Tri-State Region since 2019, and is a frequent public speaker, wellness educator and the co-founder and host of the runaway hit podcast and online community, The Road Ahead Cafe, with Frank van den Horst & Peter M. Fellows, since 2021. 

Together with Carol, Rick recently launched Well Connected, an integrated brand whose mission is to support the three most important aspects of our world: Our Body, Our Mind and Our Life, by sharing their three favorite things with everyone they meet, BEMER, The Road Ahead Cafe & Master Networks.

Rick & Carol love home remodeling, meditation, travel, golf, Subarus, sunny weather and learning new ways to live in joy and abundance. They have two grown sons, Alex 29, and Max 23. They live alongside nature in a peaceful little woodsy hamlet called Poughquag, in the Hudson Valley Region of New York.

 

About your host: I'm Drew Deraney, the proud father of three children. For most of my life I've been concerned with what people thought of me and how I was supposed to act. I learned not to be my authentic self and instead became a people pleaser, a man wearing a mask.

In a 9-month span a few years ago, I endured four faith-shaking life events that caused me to question my existence.

I became determined to find a better way to live. Through intense self-reflection and awareness, I realized that in order to be happy, I must adhere to my standards of honesty, integrity and truth and needed to break free from the belief system that was anchored in me for close to 50 years.

I found my purpose and my mission in life. I've now become the man I know I am meant to be. My mission is empowering men ready to make a change to do the same.

My men's group and one-on-one coaching provide a safe space for men to share, without judgement, and transform. My male clients learn to release their inner greatness and stop self-sabotage, the #1 roadblock keeping them from reaching their goals.

 

HOW TO CONNECT WITH COACH DREW:

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Email: [email protected]

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Episode Transcript

[00:00:06] Speaker A: Welcome to from caving in to crushing it, the podcast for those who find themselves immersed in adversity and choose to write their story instead of having others write it for them. I'm Drew Duraney, and I'm your host. Today's guest is Rick Gabrielli. Rick Gabrielli is a passionate husband, father, author, podcaster, community builder, and american wellness entrepreneur. His limitless enthusiasm, love of technology, energy, medicine, and exploration of biohacking inspires and motivates others. By choosing love over fear, Rick creates an environment of high vibration, light filled possibilities to help others uncover, cultivate and celebrate their own unique gifts, as well as the gifts in those around them. If you need a little spark, Rick always shows up ready to light your torch. Rick is the COO and visionary creator of Scarsdale Dental Spa and wellness for the past 28 years, along with Carol, his wife of 35 years. They are independent distributors and group leaders for Beamer group USA since 2016 and co authors of the Currency of Connection, first published in 2020. Rick is a happy area director and regional growth and development advisor with Master Network's tri State region since 2019 and is a frequent public speaker, wellness educator, and the co founder and host of the Runaway hit podcast and online community the Road ahead Cafe with Frank Vandenhorst and Peter M. Fellows since 2021. Together with Carol, Rick recently launched WellConnected, an integrated brand whose mission is to support the three most important aspects of our world, our body, our mind, and our life by sharing their three favorite things with everyone they meet Beamer, the road ahead cafe and Master networks Rick and Carol love home remodeling, meditation, travel, golf, subarus, sunny weather and learning new ways to live in joy and abundance. They have two grown sons, Alex, 29, and Max, 23. They live alongside nature in a peaceful little woodsy hamlet called Poka Pokag in the Hudson Valley region of New York. Enjoy the show. Rick. Gabrielle, pleasure to see you, my friend. [00:02:39] Speaker B: Good to see you. My brother Drew. What's up? [00:02:41] Speaker A: It's been a while. It's been a while. Well worth the wait, though. And you know, before, you know, I hit the record button. I always like having that chat beforehand because I learn a lot about an individual and at some point this is going to go on to video. It's going to go first out in audio, but your backdrop, I had to ask about well connected, and we're definitely going to get to that. It's very exciting. The audience is going to love that. You know, first I have to thank, I always thank the person who introduces us. And I have a spreadsheet that goes back. And initially I figured, oh, we met master networks. That wasn't the case. We actually met before master networks, and the person who introduced us, this was probably around three years ago, and I want to know if you remember this. It was Aaron Hoffman. Aaron Hoffman was the one who said, drew, you need to talk to Rick. And so I always like to give credit to the person who introduces, because that's what pay it forward is all about. So, Rick, I wanted to have you on because this is a repeat performance for you. I had you on way in the beginning when I started this, and it's evolved and adapted, and I figured it was over a year ago. Let's have you on again. And a lot has changed since, since the last time you were on. The one thing that hasn't changed is the type of human being I have on this show, and it's all about the person who takes on adversity and says, I'm going to become a better person because of it, not despite it. And I know you've gone through a lot in your life. My friend and I wanted to have you on. So we talk about when we're growing up, people teach us life is linear. So, Rick, if you do a plus, b plus, c plus, d, e is going to happen. Go ahead, go do it. And we listen, and we inevitably, something gets in our way, and we're like, this is going to derail our linear moment, but the linear life. So I'd love for you to reach back however far you need to and let us know that defining moment, whether it was the tap on the shoulder or what Drew needed the two by four upside the head to wake you up and said, rick, there's a better way to live. I'm going to take this, and this is going to be an opportunity for growth. Love to hear about that, my friend. [00:05:09] Speaker B: Well, I have two of them, so I'll share the first one, which is on August 6, 1981. I'm 19. I'm just finishing my first year of college, and my dad dies suddenly at 53 years old of a heart attack. One day, boom, 1 hour, grabbed his arm. An hour later, he was dead. So no warning. And the relationship I had with him as the youngest of three New York italian kids, everything he said, I did it. I was just like, yes, dad. Yes, dad. Yes, dad. A little sassy, but I still did everything I was told. I was very compliant. All of a sudden now my gps is gone. So I go on this, what I would consider now maybe a four or five year odyssey a bender of trying to kill myself in every way possible. Drugs, alcohol, driving fast, hanging out with the wrong people, just trying to destroy myself because I was in such pain from this loss. I was empty. I was ripped open, never to be filled again. And I just couldn't cope. So I thought, if I just live this hard driving lifestyle, eventually I'll die and I'll go with him. And I was convinced that that was the right thing to do. And so that's kind of like the first defining moment. And what happened, oddly enough, is that I think maybe in 81, like, 86. So five years or so, one night after, like, a week long, you know, bender, I'm opening my mail. It's like, 04:00 a.m. And I'm just ripping it open and hallucinating, seeing mice run up the walls. I open a letter from my high school biology teacher, Noel Haskell. And I look at it, and basically the context was, I hear from some of the guys that you're in trouble. You know, you're kind of off the rails. And, um, I'd like to help you. Uh, you know, there's. There's a place over here in Nyack, New York. No one has to know about it. And I just folded up the letter, and I never touched another drug after that. And so a switch flipped in my head and in my heart that if somebody cared this much about me, especially a stranger, even though he was a very close family friend and, like, you know, but my family was complaining to me, stop this. You're going to kill yourself. Stop this. And I only did it. It only fueled me. When I read Noel's letter, something changed. It must have been magical. It was a miracle. Fast forward about 15 years later. We are body surfing in the ocean in New Jersey, off his beach house in Ocean Grove. He was about. I was like, let's see, 38. He was about 68, okay? And we're body surfing, and I take this wave into the water, and he takes a wave, and I don't see him. So I turn and look, and his lifeless body's floating upside down in the water. I swim out to him. I get him, bring him back to the shore, and put him on the shore. And he's paralyzed from the neck down. He had a sandbar with his head, his neck. And the EMS come. They revive him, resuscitate him, bring him to the hospital. And that night when I went to his room and I held his hand, and I whispered in his ear, now we're even. You saved my life. Now I saved yours. And we had never talked about letter after the letter was sent. We never talked about it. And after he made a full recovery, he had a secret surgery to clear out his arthritic spine. After that life saving incident on the beach, we never talked about the beach incident. So we never talked about the letter or the beach. He went on to live another about 18 years. We traveled. We did all the things together. We enjoyed life. We ate with silver and cloth napkins and did everything we never talked about either, eventually. And that's the life saving power of connection. [00:09:24] Speaker A: Absolutely is, Rick. Wow. If you want a definition of connection, it's that story. Absolutely. Geez. So. So after you've woken up now, was, did you go off to college, or was this. Or was it. [00:09:41] Speaker B: I finished. I finished college in my insanity. [00:09:45] Speaker A: So it was during the insanity. Okay. [00:09:47] Speaker B: All right. So I. Freshman year, my. After freshman year, my father died. I did the three more years, no problem, even though I was drunk and high and trying to kill myself. I finished school and took over the family business and then met my wife a year later. And I was already clean a year when I met Carol. [00:10:07] Speaker A: Unbelievable. Now that you mentioned, Carol and I have met Carol, and she's a wonderful, wonderful, lovely human being. And I know she supported you and everything you've done. Can you tell me how you guys met? I love those types of stories. [00:10:22] Speaker B: Yeah. So it was about a year after my recovery, and I was playing racquetball to kind of get myself back in physical condition, right? So I was with a buddy, played some racquetball, went up to this bar called the Wampus Inn in Armont, New York, which was built in, like, 1680. [00:10:40] Speaker A: Okay. [00:10:42] Speaker B: I went to the Wampus Inn. I'd only been there twice the previous Halloween, and this was January of 87. So I'm in there. It's 10:00 at night. I walk in with my buddy, and we're just going to have a beer at the counter. And I see this girl walking by in the mirror carrying another girl, like, kind of like in a drunken hold. She's walking out of the bar, and I said to my buddy, wow. See that hot, beautiful woman right there carrying that drunk out? So she goes out the sliding doors to the, you know, to the patio of this bar and nowhere to be seen. So I'm like, I missed my opportunity. [00:11:16] Speaker A: Oh, boy. [00:11:16] Speaker B: A few minutes later, she comes walking back in. She had put the drunk girl, who was the birthday girl, in the car. They got there 05:00. It was 10:00 so the birthday girl's in the car sleeping it off. And Carol, my future wife, walks in and I said, I turned right away and said, hey, you got a minute to talk to a nice guy at the bar? And she looks me up and down and says, who, you? She sits down incredulous. Next thing you know, we have a conversation. I ask her, she doesn't give it out. And what's odd about that is we had gone back to the bar, I think it was a week later, to have like another date, and it burned to the ground. So this place that was built in like the 1680s, was there for like 300 years and burned to the ground. [00:12:12] Speaker A: Unbelievable. [00:12:13] Speaker B: And it was, and it was completely gone. And all that was there was the sign wampus in. And we drove up and we were like, I guess this must be meant to be. And what's odd is she had said, you know, I was only here one time before last Halloween. And I said, I was here last. And she night said, well, what, what kind of costume did you have? I said, well, I just had like a welding mask on because I had come from my family auto body shop. What were you wearing? She said, I was wearing a paper bag. I was the unknown comic. And I said, I remember seeing the unknown comic. She said, I remember seeing the welder, but we didn't meet. So we were actually supposed to meet the Halloween before Halloween. [00:12:51] Speaker A: Yep. [00:12:52] Speaker B: But maybe I wasn't ready. And you know, what worked out that was, that was 1987. So that's 37 years ago. [00:13:00] Speaker A: My gosh. So when you, when you went up to the Wampus Inn and it was burned down, where did you continue the date? You just went somewhere else? [00:13:07] Speaker B: Well, so we just went, we left and we couldn't believe that it was just ashes. And then we had gone to another place called Tony's Lestazion in Elmsford, New York. And we went there for many, many dates after that. And, and we're still dating today. [00:13:20] Speaker A: I love it. I love it. Yeah. That, those, those types of stories I absolutely love now was, uh, were you, had you ever been married prior? [00:13:29] Speaker B: No. [00:13:30] Speaker A: It was your first marriage and you hit, you hit the jackpot first. [00:13:34] Speaker B: Yeah, we met at 25. And, uh, what's interesting about the jackpot part is I knew when I saw her in the mirror, yeah, that's my wife. But it took me three months to convince her. And she thought I was out of my mind because I told her right away, I said, we're gonna get married. And she was like, oh, my God, here we go. [00:13:54] Speaker A: And she still. She didn't run away. She still. [00:13:57] Speaker B: The other thing I did, Drew, is the first night I met her at the wampus. [00:14:01] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:14:01] Speaker B: We were. We started talking. We danced a bit, and it was like a little stage we sat at. [00:14:06] Speaker A: Okay. [00:14:06] Speaker B: I told her my whole story about the whole thing with my father dying and the whole. [00:14:12] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:14:13] Speaker B: Four years, five years. Wanted her to know, minute one, right away what I had gone through. [00:14:18] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:14:19] Speaker B: So literally one year after getting out of that, I said to the woman who I thought was going to be my wife, I said, I just want to let you know, the baggage. [00:14:28] Speaker A: Good. [00:14:29] Speaker B: And she. She was like. She was like, cool, no worries. And I don't know whether she was freaking out or not, but I think she probably found it strange that some guy would tell her all this dirt about himself. But I just knew my friends, and I knew they would tell her if I didn't. So I was like, you know what, Martin? Tell her before she finds out the hard way. [00:14:47] Speaker A: Absolutely. It's the best way to do it, though, because if she stays, then it's meant to be. [00:14:51] Speaker B: If she leaves. [00:14:52] Speaker A: Meant to be. [00:14:53] Speaker B: I made one good decision in my. [00:14:55] Speaker A: Life that was for you. Now, you've made plenty. You've made plenty. [00:14:58] Speaker B: That was a key one. [00:14:59] Speaker A: So. All right, so now you met Carol, you're married. What were you doing work wise? Were you still doing. You weren't still doing the welding stuff? [00:15:07] Speaker B: So what's interesting is my father wanted me to be a lawyer. But when he died, I was like, I don't want to be a lawyer. I want to take over the family auto body shop. [00:15:15] Speaker A: Okay? [00:15:15] Speaker B: So when I got out of college, I begged my mother, let me run the business. And she was like, no, your father doesn't want you to do that. No way. My brother was there at the time. I said, no, please, I got to do this. And she gave in. So I was running the body shop when I met Carol, who was a banker. She said, you got a college degree and you're such a smart guy. I mean, what are you doing in this? Not that auto body is not a smart business. [00:15:37] Speaker A: I get it. [00:15:38] Speaker B: But she said, I think you need to do something. Why don't you put a suit on and go sell something or do whatever? And so I went on interviews. First one was to for a customer service job at Granger. Second one was like a travel package salesman. The third one, oddly enough, I had a ponytail down to the middle of my back, tucked in my shirt. I went to this copier sales job interview. And I'm sitting there like this with my neck all stiff, talking to this vp of sales who was a rocker, and Mike Davies, I'm talking to him, and he's in the whole interview. I'm like, stiff like this. So he gets up, like a half hour into it, and he comes over behind me, and he sees the tail, like, tucked in, and he pulls it out, and he says, if you want the job, you got it. Because he saw the tail, and he said, if any guy has got a tail like that, man, you can work for me. So I said, well, I got to talk to my wife because I was just married one year at the time. [00:16:31] Speaker A: Okay, yeah, yeah. [00:16:33] Speaker B: Okay. He takes the phone and he puts it in front of me. He says, call her right now. So we call her up, and he makes the call. He's like, carol, this is Mike Davies. I'm sitting here with Rick. I just want to let you know he's got the job if he wants it. So he wants to know what you think. And she's like, oh, for what? You know, can I talk to him? So I get on. Yeah, yeah. You know, it's cool. And it was. It was draw versus commission. No salary. [00:17:00] Speaker A: Oh. [00:17:01] Speaker B: The other two were salary, and I was draw, and I was like, full commissions. I never did that before. [00:17:05] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah. [00:17:06] Speaker B: And I said, I'm hurry. Yeah, I'm going to do it. So that started my entrepreneurial journey. Even though inside a company. Yeah, I was an intrapreneur. [00:17:14] Speaker A: Yeah, I understand the intrapreneur thing. Did you ace, like, sales stuff because you're a relationship guy, or did he teach? Like, how did that. How did you learn sales? [00:17:24] Speaker B: What happened first was I was being mentored by the owner of the company, this VP, and a sales manager on, like, the nuances and whatever was really being apprenticed negatively by the other salespeople. [00:17:36] Speaker A: Okay. [00:17:37] Speaker B: They were teaching me the quote is, this much, you got to just do that. Don't do more. Don't make us look bad. Don't do too many cold calls. Don't sell too much. Don't, you know, don't sandbag. Whatever. Anyway, it was all these, like, a culture of this bullpen was different, that the trainings of the head guys were go kick ass, limitless, man. Do it. You can do whatever. You and the teammates were like, bro, don't make us look bad. Like a union vibe. And I was like, all right. So I had a wrestle with that. After about a year, I figured it out, and I became, like, a sales superstar. [00:18:20] Speaker A: Good. For you. Good for you. And obviously, you didn't stay the whole career. So what happened? How did you. How'd you start to climb up that proverbial ladder or entrepreneurship? [00:18:30] Speaker B: This leads to my second moment of. [00:18:33] Speaker A: Oh, here we go. Okay. [00:18:34] Speaker B: All right. So I met a guy one day. I was coming out of, like, a copier cold call in Tarrytown, New York, and I met another guy who I used to, like, hang out with in the clubs, and he was building a recruiting firm. So he said, hey, why don't you come and be a recruiter, wall street recruiter with me? And I was like, I'm not sure. I don't know anything about Wall street. I'm a copier guy. I'm an auto body kid. I got a political science degree and english background. But what do I know about recruiting in Wall street? He goes, no, if you can sell copiers, you can sell anything, man. So him and I start this company, and about two years into it, we were very successful. Two offices, and we had, like, 14 people working. But he was the owner of it. I was only a partner, like a vp, but I didn't own anything. [00:19:22] Speaker A: Okay? [00:19:23] Speaker B: So there were things that were going on, and I really felt, like the need to kind of go entrepreneurial. So I actually, on December 10 of 1997, okay, about two and a half years into it, I went in one day, and I just said, you know what? I got to go do my own thing. And. And I really was choosing myself for working for someone else. And that's when I became an entrepreneur. And even though I've been in a family dental practice and a wellness center, it was something I created. So I left there December 10 of 97, I started a consulting firm, which was web design, pr, marketing. And then that kind of led me into medicine with my brother in law and sister. My sister married a dentist 30 years ago. So that kind of propelled me into that, where I was marketing in it, but it was a wellness playground. It was a laboratory for me to be able to create something around the dentistry, which was a paradigm shift in how dentistry was offered in a spa like environment catering to phobic patients, which was very successful. And that led me to become a health coach, which led me to wellness. And then we put the wellness element into the dental practice, and that led me to where I am today, which is really integrating wellness for everybody. [00:20:48] Speaker A: Wow, that's an unbelievable journey. And you know that the people you were, I don't know if it's fortunate or God did it or what, but, I mean, and you, you were resilient. You kept moving forward. You kept running into people who noticed your superpowers with connection and whatnot, and. And you were comfortable being uncomfortable going to. Let me just. Let me just try it. [00:21:13] Speaker B: Well, I'll tell you why. Because. And this still happens. [00:21:18] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:21:18] Speaker B: People were saying, how can we team up with Rick? But what they're really thinking is, how can we use Rick? [00:21:25] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:21:26] Speaker B: To make money and, you know, let him. Let him go out and create for us or sell for us or. Or, you know, so I was never rewarded to the level that I could stay in any one of those situations. I was always. I'm not going to say underappreciated because I was very much appreciated. [00:21:43] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:21:44] Speaker B: I was under compensated. [00:21:45] Speaker A: Yes. Yes. [00:21:46] Speaker B: That made me feel underappreciated. [00:21:49] Speaker A: Yes. [00:21:49] Speaker B: Because let's face it, this is only two ways to let someone know you love them. Tell them you love them and show them love or give them money or something. [00:21:56] Speaker A: Right, exactly. [00:21:57] Speaker B: In business, there's only two things. You're building me up so much that the elevation is irresistible. And that definitely fed my need for recognition, because I was completely recognition minded. Money was secondary. But without enough money, after a while, the recognition is nothing. You can't send it to the phone company. [00:22:17] Speaker A: Exactly. You're entirely right. That's a wonderful lesson, too. It's about knowing your worth and standing your ground. And that's where you are right now. [00:22:27] Speaker B: I left that Wall street job. [00:22:29] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:22:29] Speaker B: I did not have a job. I had a company idea. And when I got home that day and I told Carol I was coming home, when I got to the house, my three year old was holding up a sign. Welcome home, daddy. We're so happy. We love you. We believe in you and Carol right there. I had a mortgage, two car loans, a baby, and a wife at home, working, you know, not working. So I had no income when I left that job. Okay, so no net. [00:22:54] Speaker A: All right, so how did you, uh, the first or second step to get out of that and where you are now? [00:23:02] Speaker B: Because after I said hi to them. [00:23:05] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:23:05] Speaker B: I walked in my office. In my home. [00:23:07] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:23:08] Speaker B: And I sat down and I got to work. I did not take a minute off. I went in, I was sad. I was broken. I was clueless. I sat down at my desk and I just started creating. And that was at the time a company called Rainmaker Consulting had for many years, and it was pr, marketing, web design. I got a few people. I got a few clients. I teamed up. I was creative, and that was actually very successful, too. And then when the dental practice kind of expanded and we grew 21 years ago, we moved to a new space where we built a wellness center and spa. My time was occupied with that more. And then eight years ago, I found Beamer. And, you know, so it's just nonstop, man, like, recreation and, like, finding out what the thing is that I'm most passionate about. But one thing I'm always fearless about, yeah, is recreating, doing something new. I get advice, but I don't listen if it's not aligned with my inner. I use my inner compass. I'm more than happy to fail 99% of the time and win 1% with my inner compass. Then try to get a win with someone else's compass. [00:24:25] Speaker A: I love that. I love that. That inner compass is so important. We all have that inner compass now. We don't all listen to it, though. All right, so let's bring us to where you are now, because I know we haven't talked about your podcast yet, which I want to hear about, and some of the other stuff you're involved in. So if you can get into some of that. [00:24:43] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah. So, as I mentioned eight years ago, because I was in the wellness space and medical, I was out at a wellness event out in California called titanium. It was kind of like a Tony Robbins event, a three day event. And we're all on teams, colorful teams, red, yellow, blue, green. And there's about 400 people out there in this four day event. And so one of the exercises during the weekend was, we were told ahead of time, if you're on the red team, come with red clothing and red accessories. If you're on the blue team, wear blue, yellow, yellow, green, green. So we're all in this audience, and we're all sitting by color. So there was an accountability exercise. So one of the things that I did when I first got there, the organizer's sister was the head of the red team. She had a box of accessories. So I had brought red shirt, red pants, and red cape. So I get there and shes got a red mohawk, and im like, give me that. I put it on. Im sitting in the front row with this red mohawk on for the whole event. So one of the people on the red team, this girl Heidi Simon, she sees this red mohawk, and shes like, I got to know this crazy guy. So during one of the accountability exercises, she comes up and says, I just cant help but be attracted to you with this red mohawk. Tell me the story, whatever. And then lets do an accountability exercise. So we do the accountability exercise. And what do you do, by the way? I said, I run a dental practice, a spa and wellness center in New York. What do you do? Oh, I have a credit card processing company, and I sell this device called Beamer. Have it with me. Have you ever heard of it? Nope. All right, tell me about it. She tells me a little bit, and she says, I have a dentist in San Diego who's using it and loves it, him and his wife. And if you'd like to talk to them, that'd be great. So I get home, I get the info. Me and Carol fly out to San Diego. We meet this guy Stephen, and his wife, Carol Ann. She's also a carol. And we see Vehmer. We bring one home from my brother in law. He has amazing results. We start using it, and then Carol says, I think we got to share this with people. So for the first time, my wife suggested a business plan and an opportunity. She never did in at the time, it was 29 years. [00:27:04] Speaker A: Unbelievable. [00:27:05] Speaker B: She never suggested a business. She wanted nothing to do with my businesses. This one. She says, I'm going to do this with you. Like, all right, I'm all in. So we become Beamer users and distributors, and then we rose to the level of management as group leaders. And I've been on the advisory committee twice. I'm a heart of Beamer award winner. So all in with this thing? [00:27:27] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:27:28] Speaker B: About three years ago, I met a networking group in the Netherlands. In the morning, spin ideas with Veronica Gugain. You were virtually, though, virtually on a networking group. And it was Netherlands at 06:00 a.m. In the Netherlands, because it was later. And I meet this guy. Frank Vandenhorst is going to be one of the speakers there. I love him. And he's telling a story about how his father was a magician. And I'm glued. I'm like, oh, my God, this is so much fun. And he's Dutch, so he's got, like, a dutch accent. So he's like, my father was a magician, and he's telling me. So after the. After the event, I was so touched. I reached out to him on LinkedIn, said, man, I love that magician story, Frank. I was a magic lover as a kid, and I believe magic is a big part of my life now. Even though it's a different kind of magic. It's not cards and rabbits, internal magic. And we hit it off, and we had a great conversation. And I had met this guy, Peter Fellowes, in a mindfulness summit. [00:28:30] Speaker A: Okay. [00:28:30] Speaker B: I said, I want to. And Frank and Peter are much older than me. They're old guys. He said, let me put these. Let me put these two elders together, and maybe they could, you know, like young rock on a porch or something. And I get. I put them together, and they come to the meeting saying, we think we should do something with Rick. Let's do a podcast. [00:28:51] Speaker A: I love it. [00:28:52] Speaker B: And I was like, all right, I got to do a podcast with these two old guys. [00:28:55] Speaker A: I love it. [00:28:56] Speaker B: So we created the road ahead cafe, which is just going to record our 100th episode. [00:29:01] Speaker A: Congratulations. [00:29:02] Speaker B: When Frank comes into town in a couple weeks. [00:29:04] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah. [00:29:06] Speaker B: So the road ahead cafe yielded two live events called the Road trips, which the third one is May 3 this year. The other two were on Cinco de Mayo. Frank comes in from the Netherlands. And by the way, Peter's Canadian, Frank's Dutch. I'm the New York Italian. [00:29:20] Speaker A: Is Peter coming in for the May 3 thing, too? [00:29:22] Speaker B: Peter lives in emeritus New York. [00:29:24] Speaker A: Oh, he's. Oh, he's. Oh, he lives in New York. [00:29:26] Speaker B: He's been in New York for 30 years. Yeah. Yeah. So then that yielded an online community called the Road Ahead Cafe community, which is an app, and it's all about self care and up leveling your life. And then, of course, this master networks thing, which I've been in for five years, which I wanted no part of, which is a. A global network of entrepreneurs and business leaders who are education and community based that want to leave a legacy beyond the business. [00:29:55] Speaker A: Right? Absolutely. [00:29:56] Speaker B: And I became an area director, growth and development advisor, chapter builder, community builder, and all the things in that thing. And that's a volunteer job. But it's elevated my brand and my psyche and given me opportunities for personal growth and to reach people and to meet people like you and great other people like us and foster community. So I was trying to figure out how to integrate Beamer, the road ahead, and master networks, and I finally came up with well connected, which is igniting the spark in you and people like you and others, and in order to foster physical, emotional, and community well being. [00:30:38] Speaker A: That's wonderful. And that has to happen. Usually, people are focusing on one of those things. You can work on all three simultaneously. [00:30:47] Speaker B: It's not easy. It's not easy because they all have lives of their own, but I. But I'm doing it. [00:30:53] Speaker A: You are wonderful. Good for you, man. I'm proud of you. [00:30:56] Speaker B: Thank you. [00:30:57] Speaker A: So I could talk to you forever. So I know that the audience has captured the essence of Rick Gabrielli. And you guys are going to want more Rick. So the best way to reach Rick is go to his website. It's gabrielle.com, comma, g a b r I e l l y. There's a digital business card there that explains all the stuff he's involved in, and they're all meaningful and value added in their own way. So please reach out to Rick. All right, Rick, two final questions. All right, I'm going to give you the opportunity to sit down with young seven to ten year old Rick, and you're going to give him advice about life. What are you going to tell him? [00:31:40] Speaker B: Wow. You know, seven to ten year old Rick had a baseball mitt and a ball in his hand 100% of the time. That's all I did. That's all I wanted to do. I wanted to be a professional baseball player. That was it. And so, oddly enough, the first thing I would tell him is to practice more because I needed to be a lot better than I thought I was to get to where I wanted to be. But I also would have told him that a lot of the people that he was going to meet along the way were going to be very instrumental in his journey. So maybe I maybe would have shared if at the time, a celestine prophecy type of book or idea with him, that all of these people are put in your life completely for a reason. So even the worst ones, the bullies, the people who we call petty tyrants, the ones that aggravate you and make you feel like, you know, life is horrible, they're all put there to teach you resilience and to build you up and, you know, make you, prepare you for the journey of the thing you're going to do someday, which is to touch people and just be, you know, be a special light in the world. Everyone has special gifts, and so our role here is to share those gifts. So I would say, just keep shining your light, little boy. I love that. [00:33:04] Speaker A: All right, switch hats. Now you're sitting down with young Rick, the young businessman entrepreneur, and you want to give him advice about business. What are you going to tell him? [00:33:15] Speaker B: I'm going to tell him to pick up a percentage of the money he makes to give away and to save, because I had no idea what charity was back then, and I had no idea what savings was. So if I would have, even if, even if young Rick said to me, how's 1%? I would have said, that's great. 1% to charity, 1% to savings would have been a completely different journey because I would have learned a lot more. And, and I didn't get either one of those pieces when I was younger. [00:33:51] Speaker A: Right. And you're following that now. [00:33:53] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:33:53] Speaker A: Good for you. Good for you. Embody it. You're embodying the, that advice. That's wonderful. Well, Rick, I have to thank you for a lot of things. The first thing is obviously coming onto the show, but thank you for coming into my life, my friend. I am grateful for you. You're a wonderful human being. My appreciation for you goes beyond words. And please continue what you're doing. You are helping so many people just by being who you are, your authentic self. And we need more people to do that. So thanks again for being in my life. [00:34:25] Speaker B: My man, brother, I'm just a mirror for you. You know, when I, when I hear what you're doing and see what you're doing, and I see every bit of it and it's always out there, you're like oxygen, man. You're everywhere. And I love you and I appreciate you and you are doing amazing things, so, especially for men. And, you know, giving us a voice is, it's so essential. And you're a highly evolved guy, you know, terrific dad and terrific son and terrific friend. [00:34:53] Speaker A: Thank you so much, my friend. You're, you're my brother. [00:34:56] Speaker B: Thank you, buddy. [00:34:57] Speaker A: All right, well, everybody have a wonderful day and please take care of yourself. Thanks so much for listening. If you enjoyed the episode, please subscribe and give us a review to help others find it. I'd like you to answer this question. Are you living the life you want to live? Or are you living the life life others want you to live? I'd like you to think about that for a second because I strongly suggest you live the life you want to live. If you want to learn more about what I stand for and my services and how I'm able to help many men get out of their own way, please go to my website at www.prophetcompassion.com. Feel free to also email [email protected]. I'd love to have a conversation with you. Take care of yourself and choose to write your own story instead of letting others write it for.

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